Day 6: Things not to say.
I like so many here have heard the most insensitive and awful comments, even from those closest to me. Sometimes there seems to be a big disconnect between what is in peoples hearts and the words that come out their mouths. People often feel very uncomfortable with grief, reminding them of their own mortality. I use to feel the urge to stand up to peoples shocking comments, but I don't anymore. I don't want anyone to feel sad or upset at words I may say to them. I want to make my babies proud and develop a forgiving and loving soul. I truly believe that "when we know better we do better" and the is the quote on my photo for today. The beautiful lily in the photo was sent to me by a friend after the loss of our first baby. She was a shining light in a sea of unthoughtful comments that gave me hope that people really do the best the can.